A pregnancy loss charity is about to install a special postbox in Oban.
Mis Miscarriage support charity has teamed up with child bereavement charity Anam Cara Fasgadh who took over the Tree of Tranquility memory garden in the grounds of Dunollie Garden in 2016 to find a loving place for the postbox to go.
The two charities have worked together to deliver the memory mailbox, giving families and friends impacted by miscarriage a way of leaving messages and notes to the little ones gone too soon. Miscarriage can have ’a ripple effect’ that travels further than the parent or parents.
Oban mum-of-two Laura Livingstone who had a miscarriage in 2021 started volunteering with Mis one and a half years later.
"I stumbled across MIS’s website while I was looking for organisations I could get help from. A year and a half later, I realised I was still sitting with the grief. Until then my only support had been from people I knew who disclosed historical losses to me. There were a lot of us and none of us had been given the help we really needed," said Laura who has an eight-year-old and now a three-year-old she calls her ’rainbow baby.’
Laura had experienced a missed miscarriage. A routine scan at 12 weeks showed her baby was only measuring about seven weeks gestation with an undetectable heartbeat so she was sent home to wait for a confirmation scan appointment - during that time she haemorrhaged and had to be transferred to Glasgow.
"The A&E and midwives in Oban were fantastic but you don’t have the access to the same services as you get in Glasgow. it was a traumatic experience. I took three months off work after, as a social worker for adults with learning difficulties. how could I do my job and support them when I was needing support myself. I was strugglingwith grief, it was overwhelming, two fold, the loss of a baby and the trauma of the loss of a baby."
Laura is now paid as a MIS worker for Oban, five hours a week, she hopes to build more connections in the town and the area to make sure those who need support get it - she has already built links with HomeStart and at the Oban Toy Cupboard. Midwives in Oban have a supply of the charity’s memory boxes and she has given a presentation to the town’s community mental health team to spread the word of what the charity can offer.
The new mailbox should arrive at Dunollie in time for Anam Cara Fasgadh’s next butterfly release at the Tranquility garden on may 30. this year the charity is funding the butterflies for families. Information can be found on its Facebook page and website.
A supply of paper, envelopes and pens will be left next to the mailbox and when it is full, it will be emptied and the paper planted so wildflowers can grow from the messages. MIS Miscarriage Support already has a postbox in Aberdeen which needs to be empties and messages planted often.
Laura and Susan hope the Oban box will be as helpful.
You can find out more about Mis Oban & Surrounding Areas on facebook and can get in touch with Laura by emailing oban@mis-support.org.uk
It is hoped that pupils from Oban High School will get involved in making planters for the area.
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